Notice of intent to marry or enter into an unmarried partnership

Would you like to get married or enter into a partnership? Then you first need to notify the municipality. This was previously called a ‘notice of intent to marry’ (in ondertrouw gaan).

When and where to give notice

You can give notice a maximum of 1 year and a minimum of 3 weeks before the date of the ceremony.

You can announce your intention in any municipality in the Netherlands. It is most practical to do this in the municipality where you will get married or enter into your partnership.

Arrange it online

You can give notice online if both of you are registered with the Municipal Personal Records Database (BRP) and if all the required documents are okay. You will need to:

  • Select the date when you will marry or enter into an unmarried partnership in the Hague Appointment System. Make sure you know where and when the ceremony will take place and which civil registrar you would like to designate.
    You can already take a look in the agenda to see which dates are available.
This is not the time to schedule the date. You do not do this until Step 3.

Look at the agenda

  • Print out the Notification of intended marriage (see Step 2). Complete the form, sign it and upload it into the Hague Appointment System (see Step 3).
  • Upload all the other required documents into the appointment system (see Step 1).
  • Pay the fees. You will receive an acceptgiro payment slip in order to make the payment.

Are you unsure whether all of the required documents are complete and correct? Make a brief appointment to get information on marriage/unmarried partnership at the counter at the Centrum or Escamp city office.

Make an appointment

One or both partners living abroad

  • Does 1 of you live outside of the Netherlands? Make a brief appointment at the counter at the Centrum or Escamp city office.
  • Do both of you live outside of the Netherlands, is 1 of you Dutch and would you like to get married or enter into an unmarried partnership in the Netherlands? You will first need to announce this to the Department of National Tasks (Afdeling Landelijke Taken) at the Municipality of The Hague. See Huwelijk voor Nederlanders die in het buitenland wonen melden.
  • If neither partner is registered in a municipality in the Netherlands and if neither partner has Dutch nationality, you will not be able to give notice of your intent to marry and it will not be possible to get married in the Netherlands.

Special conditions

  • A ceremony at a free-choice wedding venue (a non-municipal location, but rather a location which you have arranged) requires a statement of approval.
  • You must both be at least 18 years old.
  • Blood relatives are no longer allowed to marry. For example, (grand) parents, (grand) children, brothers/sisters, cousins, nieces/nephews with aunts and uncles. There are exceptions to this rule. More information can be found under Marriage, cohabitation agreement, registered partnership on government.nl.
  • Are you under guardianship? Then you will first need to get permission.
  • Surname: Would you like the municipality to address you by the name of your spouse or partner after you marry or enter into an unmarried partnership? Look at Indicate your new surname.

Step 1. Make sure you have the right documents

Were you born in the Netherlands and have you always lived here? Then your details are usually registered with the Municipal Personal Records Database (BRP). Were you born outside of the Netherlands or have you not always lived here? And are your details not registered in the BRP? Then you first need to have these documents registered with the BRP.

Document When required? Explanation
A copy of a valid form of identification Always Passport, Dutch identity card or driving licence
A copy of a valid form of identification for the witnesses * Always Passport, Dutch identity card or driving licence
A divorce certificate or certificate of termination of unmarried partnership or a death certificate If you have previously been married or had a partnership and the certificate is not yet registered in the BRP You can apply for the certificate in the municipality where you were married or entered into a partnership. You can get the death certificate in the municipality where your partner died
A recently issued birth certificate If the birth certificate is not yet registered in the BRP You can apply for this certificate in the municipality where you were born
A declaration of place of residence/nationality/marital status If you or your partner lives abroad You apply for the declaration in your current place of residence
Statement of approval for free-choice wedding venue If you want to get married at a free-choice wedding venue

* to get married or to enter into an unmarried partnership, a minimum of 2 and a maximum of 4 witnesses are needed. It makes no difference which of the partners brings the witnesses. The witnesses all sign for both partners. All the witnesses need to be 18 years or older. The municipality does not provide witnesses.

Step 2. Complete the 'Notification of intended marriage' form

    Fill in the form

    • Complete the form online in its entirety. Make sure you have all of your details, your parents' details and the witnesses' details available (such as the date of birth, place of birth).
    • You will then receive the form as a PDF file. Print this file out.

    Both partners sign the printed form

    • Both partners have to sign the printed paper form.
    • Scan the signed document (as 1 file)
    • Upload the scanned document in the Hague Appointment System when you book your wedding or unmarried partnership. 

    Step 3. Book your wedding or unmarried partnership

    You can only do this if you and your partner are both registered with the Municipal Personal Records Database (BRP) and all the required documents have been registered in the BRP.

    Go to the Hague Appointment System:

    • The first chance to book an appointment is always 3 weeks from the current day.
    • Decide on the type of ceremony: regular, simplified or free.
      The dates for the free wedding or unmarried partnership are often fully booked months ahead of time.
    • Reserve your wedding date and wedding venue and state your preference for a civil registrar. After your reservation is confirmed you can indicate your preference for 2 other civil registrars by sending an email to: trouwen@denhaag.nl. If the civil registrar of your choice is not available, another civil registrar will automatically be assigned to you. You will not be notified about this.
    • Upload the completed and signed Notification of intended marriage/registered partnership, copies of the valid forms of
      identification for you and your partner and for the witnesses, and the
      statement of approval for a free-choice wedding venue, if applicable. You can also take a photo of the documents and upload it.

    Step 4. Confirmation

    You will receive a confirmation of receipt within 1 week.

    If it appears that certain documents are missing or that your notification of intended marriage/registered partnership is not complete or signed, your application will be cancelled.
    If the wedding/registered partnership is cancelled within 3 weeks of the scheduled date, you will still be liable for any costs you have made.

    Civil registrar

    The civil registrar will be officially designated 2.5 weeks before your wedding or unmarried partnership. He or she will then contact you. You will not be contacted if you are having a simplified or free ceremony.

    Make an appointment

    It is possible to give notice of your intent in person at the counter at the Centrum or Escamp city office. This can be done only if you can present all of your documents and they have been approved.

    Both partners are not required to visit the counter in person but they both do need to sign the notice of intent. All of the fees for the ceremony have to be paid upfront. 

    Make an appointment

    Fees

    A notice of intent is free.

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